Sometimes we do things in perforce.
Not because we want, but because we should. The critics don't believe in such things. They believe that we always have the power to choose what we want and what we do.
But we don't.
Though we wish we could do as we please, we can't. There's always an invisible force that jeopardizes the outcome. sometimes its the effect we wanted and somtimes it isn't.
The effect is what leads us to become or to not become. The choice to do either one, is yours. Not the crowd, not family, not anyone but yourself.
You choose what you want to be.
Circumstances just pave the way.
You choose the road you want to take.
Road of destruction and pain with a dead end.
Or the road of trials and love that leads to fullfillment and eternity with God, almighty.